When she was the new girl on the block and queen of Pon de Replay I adored Rihanna, I even adored her when she cranked it up, embraced womanhood and started releasing songs like Rude Boy and Disturbia. She proved that not only is she a bad ass mudda, she has a set of lungs to match and her stage performances ooze confidence. And then she met Chris Brown.
A celebrities personal life is exactly that, a personal life and it’s nobody elses business who they choose to love/spend their life with… or is it? Every single degree of a celebrities life becomes public domain and to an extent they know this when they sign up for that lifestyle. When images of a bruised and beaten Rihanna leaked onto the internet after a violent bust up with R’n’B star Chris Brown, publications worldwide called for her to kick his butt to the curb. Granted, there was a period of seperation between the pair but little over a year later photographs and of Rihanna and Brown hanging out/meeting up started to circulate.
Domestic violence happens, we all know this and we all probably know someone who has experienced it or is still experiencing it, you may have experienced it yourself – and it ain’t pretty. I know, and you probably know that domestic violence is something that should absolutely not be tolerated, I’m a big believer in the fact that a leopard never changes its spots. Domestic abuse can be physical or mental, but the physical side can start out small and can quickly snowball – as with the photo that leaked of Rihanna’s beaten and bruised face after her altercation with Brown.
There are hundreds of women and men (take Coronation Street for example) who stay in abusive relationships because there’s no way out or because it’s easier to just stay – alot of people stay in abusive relationships because they think their partner will change. For your average person on the street, this is more common than we think but when it comes to somebody in the media its not so straight forward.
But here comes that word again… “celebrity” and the belief that because someone is in the public eye, part of your life/soul belongs to the public domain. I get that this isn’t realistic when it comes to some things and that everybody deserves a private life. But with Rihanna, as a celebrity and as a woman with alot of influence over a generation, I feel she has a moral obligation towards her fans who regard her as a role model and an inspiration. What pisses me off with Rihanna is that she openly glamourises that whole lifestyle. With the media interest of her relationship with Brown, where everyone knows that the guy beat 50 shades of sh!t out of her, perhaps rekindling the romance would be best done in private and adopting a bit of a “tail between legs” stance. Instead, she constantly posts provocative pictures of them on Instagram, lying in bed and smoking marijuana and it makes me shake with anger. I imagine being the parent of a teenage daughter with no life or love experience and knowing that Rihanna is her “idol” – I’m not completely knocking Rihanna. Her success is amazing and as a business woman and with the brand she has created for herself I say “Hi5 biiiiitch!” but the whole Brown situation screams of Bobby and Whitney to me.