This weekend I got to thinking about insults and things peoplesay with the intention of huting you. They say that sticks and stones may break your bones but words will never hurt you. I say thats bullshiz. I say that sticks and stones break your bones and in time they’ll heal, but words find roots and can do more damage long term. Which is why it disgusts me that people that are way past school playground age are still so willing to throw out venomous and nasty insults without having the ability of thinking before they speak.
I’ve been hurt in the past by such insults, sometimes from people I don’t know and who have not even the slightest bit of insight into my life. Sometimes by people who I regarded as a friend. After spending a long time picking at my faults and tearing at my self esteem, I came to realise that if someone insists on insulting you & spitting venomous words in your direction, you can do one of two things:
You can let that person win and take their vile insults personally and allow their poison that has come from a rotten place in them knock your self esteem.
…you can turn those insults around onto the person speaking them. To speak such poisonous words that person must simply be reflecting whats inside them. Its a well known fact that people who are so willing to speak such poisonous words of others do so because they’re seething with poison themselves. Much like bullies. Whether they’re unhappy with themselves or with their own lot in life, they seem to think that spitting these venemous words they’re going to detract from their own misery. So ultimately you have to feel sorry for these people, pity them even. It must be sad to be so bitter.
On the same note, I find it ridiculous that people still use words such as “fat” as an insult, its almost as insulting as people who use the word “ginger” as an insult (i.e, not insulting at all and tired. Lets have some originality eh?)
A quote from Mean Girls is a prime example of this, you know the one:
“Calling someone fat won’t make you any skinner. Calling someone stupid doesn’t make you any smarter. Ruining someone’s life won’t make yours any better. The only thing that you can do in life is solve the problem that’s in front of you.”