Motivational Monday – Poison Words Are Spoken

callingsomebodyfatdoesntmakeyouanythinner

This weekend I got to thinking about insults and things peoplesay with the intention of huting you.  They say that sticks and stones may break your bones but words will never hurt you.  I say thats bullshiz.  I say that  sticks and stones break your bones and in time they’ll heal, but words find roots and can do more damage long term.  Which is why it disgusts me that people that are way past school playground age are still so willing to throw out venomous and nasty insults without having the ability of thinking before they speak.

I’ve been hurt in the past by such insults, sometimes from people I don’t know and who have not even the slightest bit of insight into my life.  Sometimes by people who I regarded as a friend.  After spending a long time picking at my faults and tearing at my self esteem, I came to realise that if someone insists on insulting you & spitting venomous words in your direction, you can do one of two things:

You can let that person win and take their vile insults personally and allow their poison that has come from a rotten place in them knock your self esteem.

OR

…you can turn those insults around onto the person speaking them.  To speak such poisonous words that person must simply be reflecting whats inside them.  Its a well known fact that people who are so willing to speak such poisonous words of others do so because they’re seething with poison themselves.  Much like bullies. Whether they’re unhappy with themselves or with their own lot in life, they seem to think that spitting these venemous words they’re going to detract from their own misery.  So ultimately you have to feel sorry for these people, pity them even.  It must be sad to be so bitter.

On the same note, I find it ridiculous that people still use words such as “fat” as an insult, its almost as insulting as people who use the word “ginger” as an insult (i.e, not insulting at all and tired.  Lets have some originality eh?)

A quote from Mean Girls is a prime example of this, you know the one:

“Calling someone fat won’t make you any skinner. Calling someone stupid doesn’t make you any smarter. Ruining someone’s life won’t make yours any better. The only thing that you can do in life is solve the problem that’s in front of you.”

  • Jessica

    I think that being called names is a lot more damaging than being beat, because as you said – you eventually heal and you’re reminded of the damage every single time you hear the name. I also agree that we need to come up with some more creative names to call people. :P Personally, I think certain names such as Ginger are a compliment.

  • Mia

    Words do a lot more damage than physical violence. Words seem to have meaning, whereas violence can be deemed as just downright bullying. Words can lead a person to believe that there is something wrong with them and it can sometimes take more to stand up to verbal abuse than to throw a punch back. The Mean Girls quote is actually really lovely, helpful and down to Earth, more people should listen to it. I love the hair colour ginger. I wish my colour was that!

  • Judy

    People who throw these nasty comments should think first. Would they like to be on the receiving end? If they have children would they like them to be subjected to such horrible insults? And it just gets worse, are they teaching their children, if they have any, to behave in this way?
    Words of this nature can be very hurtful and these people are a disgrace.