I’ve always been a fan of Katie Price, by “fan” I don’t mean that I bought her annual calendars or would buy the vast collection of products that “Pricey” has put her name to but instead mean that as a woman in business I’ve always sort of admired her. In the same way that the likes of Kim Kardashian and other reality show “stars” have risen to fame, Katie amassed a fortune from living out her private life in the public domain. Through numerous glossy magazine features showcasing her marriages and welcome additions to her ever growing family and lucrative “merchandise” deals including a perfume, clothing, equestrian, lingerie and bedding lines she brought home the bacon…all whilst playing mum to an adorable brood. In the UK she’s as Marmite an individual as you can get, some people love her and on the other side spectrum people seem to loathe her.
When the news broke (rather dramatically) from Katie’s personal Twitter account about her 3rd husband, Kieran Hyler of having an affair with two of her friends I found myself, along with those in the UK who love her (and probably a few of those who loathe her) feeling sorry for Katie. Newly married to Kieran with a young baby between them and another bundle of joy on the way, you couldn’t help but empathise with a woman who’s life seemed to have been turned on its head.
Branding both Jane and Chrissy wh*res and sl*ts, Katie has ripped into the women who have admitted to sleeping with their so called friends husband. & quite rightly to a degree.
But what about Kieran?
After being treated for sex addiction, Price has announced her decision to stand by her man following the birth of the couples second baby.
I have a friend who’s boyfriend strayed away. He would spend evenings on his phone texting other girls (who were also her friends) and admitted to sleeping with them when he was drunk, but of course, She forgave him. She threw a 100 good reasons to justify his behaviour: “They were going through a rough patch”. “It didn’t mean anything to him”. H”e was really sorry”. “She was just there and I felt really lonely”.
The girls he hooked up with? Not so much in the forgiving stakes. It didn’t matter that it didn’t mean anything to them either or that they felt lonely. They were branded whores and sluts, publically shamed on Facebook and thrown out of the social circle. There was an out and out witch hunt and like I said before, rightly so. Married or taken men are off the menu, ESPECIALLY if it’s a friends husband or boyfriend. Hoes before bros and all that.
But why the double standards?
Why do the women get villified and the man gets the benefit of the doubt. Like Christina sang about in “Can’t Hold Us Down” – “the girl can do the same and yet you call her whore”. Only a few days ago former 3LW and Cheetah Girls Adrienne Bailon star publicly blasted former boyfriend Rob Kardashian for cheating on her during their 2 year romance at the beginning of KUWTK and addresses how she was called out by fans of the show for not forgiving him and taking him back. “She won’t stop slamming Rob” are the headlines and as much as I love the Kardashian’s, the guy cheated on her. Why should she forgive him, take him back or talk about him positively? He cheated on her.
With Cheryl Cole taking back the (multiple) cheating Ashley back (back in’t day), Coleen forgiving Wayne’s infidelities, recent rumblings amid the WAG community of unfaithful partners and now rumours of Jay Z allegedly doing the dirty on Queen Bey, it’s as though we’re being surrounded by all these empowered “no bullsh*t” women who give the impression that infidelity is okay and to forgive is the way forward. Obviously, we’re all grown ups here and to forgive is an act of discretion but it makes me curious as to the “normal girls” take on cheating and forgiveness.
Are you a “forgive and forget” kind of gal or do you follow the Lauren Conrad classic one liner “I wanna forgive you and I wanna forget you”?